Carrying on with the topic of engagement if you have seen my last posts I met up with a friend of mine from High School who also recently got engaged to just sit down and chat. With us having a similar story and same age I was interested to know if she got asked questions that I got asked.
Lauren and her fiance’ (Ronald) met at their church connect group that her brother invited her to and at the time he was co-leading and they just clicked and became friends. They have been dating for 6 months before he proposed but they knew each other for about a year prior to the engagement. This is not strange to me seeing that myself and my partner dated for 8 months before he proposed, which leads me to people asking questions like “are you ready?”, “I’ve been dating for 3 years and Im nowhere close to proposing”.
Social media in my opinion has really changed the way people date in this day and age, there’s a lot of unnecessary comparing going on and trying to outdo the next couple even though just like everyone is different so is their relationship. Here are some of the qs I asked Lauren and here is what she had to say:
What are your tips for a successful relationship:
I asked myself: Am I the person that I want to be with. I looked at myself first, do I love myself do I respect myself and then applied that going forward in my life.
How did you know you were ‘ready’:
When I started this relationship it wasn’t because I was looking for a companion or wanted to be with someone. Our relationship had a good foundation and essentially God brought us together so I had no doubt that this was the right step.
Why do you think people glamourise the wedding and not the marriage?
In our society everything is glamourised so its easy for people to be influenced by the rings, by the dress but they don’t realize that marriage is real. At the end of the day you have to be with that person and realize that it’s not going to be all sunshine and roses but that you love each other enough to stick through it. Yes having the big do is nice but you must remember it’s not just about that.
Best advice you’ve received regarding relationships?:
To realize the relationship is between you and your partner not a third party. That you always make sure you respect each other.
Advice you would give to people in a relationship:
Enjoy the journey of your relationship with your partner and don’t compare your pace to someone else.
The great thing about spending time with someone who has the same values as you and feels the same about their relationship like you feel about yours, is that you click and can talk for ever. I do strongly agree (and have been telling people that ask) that we all have our own journey to experience and that comparing yourself whether it be in relationships, work, studying and life in general will just make your journey harder for yourself.
Love the life you live.
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